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Paint Your Future with Feng Shui
Look around your home and see what kind of artwork you have.
Do you see beautiful pictures of Spring, your ideal travel location or a picture of a happy couple or loving family?
These are the types of artwork you should see around your home.
Past, Present and Your Future
I come across a lot of clients with pieces of art that mean so much to them because it reminds them of the old times or the struggles they overcame, such as a weathered pier on a placid lake or a lonely country road.
Artwork may speak to the past, but do you really want to be stuck in the past?
A Hazy Shade of Winter
When on consultations, I also often see paintings of wintery, desolate landscapes or colorful Fall foliage.
I usually end up advising them to change out those paintings with beautiful Spring and Summer artwork.
Why? That’s when things are alive and growing!
You want your life to blossom and grow.
In Fall and Winter, on the other hand, most things are at the end of their seasonal lifecycles. Leaves turn and fall while plants wither and die.
Why would you want your home’s energy to be dying?
All the Single Ladies
I also see a lot of paintings of a beautiful and strong single woman, because many of my clients want to be like her.
Then again, these are typically also the clients who tell me they are looking for happiness and love. When I look around their house and especially at their artwork, however, all I see is the evidence of a lonely person.
If you would like to be in a happy relationship, then find the artwork that really speaks to happy relationships.
Find a painting of two people sitting together sharing a glass of wine, or a couple tango dancing or two people holding hands jumping off a plane together. Okay… maybe not that last one; but you get the idea!
Get Out of the Blue Period
The types of artwork I recommend may not speak to your personality.
But, if you want to bring in good, active, creative energy, please stay away from all black and white pictures or paintings from sad, tormented artists.
Yes, artwork from those who cut off their ear or met their end at an early age might be worth big bucks. But, the only time they will be bringing in money for you is when you sell them.
While you hold onto such artwork, they will likely only drain energy from you and your home.
Next Steps
Surround yourself with art that defines something new and beautiful for you. Don’t forget that the same holds true for your office as your home.
Paint your home with the future of your dreams. Consider this the first step in turning your dreams into your reality.
Learn more about Feng Shui Art, as well as the Love & Marriage corner of your space.
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Want to REALLY improve your situation? Contact me right now to inquire about a Virtual Feng Shui Consultation so I can help you pick the right artwork via Skype.
De-Clutter Your Friends
friend (noun) \ˈfrend\
1: a person connected to another by a mutual bond of affection or esteem
2: a person that is not hostile
In this day of Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Google+, take a look at how many “friends” you have in your social networks.
Be honest – are they truly your friends? How many of them do you actually enjoy spending time with vs. how many are simply acquaintances?
Eliminate Negativity
Now take a look at your updates or news feeds. Do any of your “friends” post consistently negative comments? Would you avoid them if you saw them in a public place?
You will always hear me talking about eliminating the clutter in your space. Now get rid of the clutter on MySpace (or Facebook, Twitter, or anywhere else you spend your time).
That’s right. Unsubscribe from the feeds or even un-friend those that do not provide you with positive energy.
Why let others fill your thoughts with negative complaints and anger? This only weighs you down emotionally!
Add Positivity
And don’t think that I’m suggesting you only do this on social networks. Find friends online and in real life that are truly friends – people who will lift you up and with whom you will have a mutual bond of affection or esteem.
Haven’t met any yet? Subscribe to the feeds of others with truly inspiring messages filled with positive energy.
For example, you may want to subscribe to the news feeds of Tony Robbins, Nick Vujicic, Oprah Winfrey or the Dalai Lama. And be sure to subscribe to mine, while you’re at it!
I can assure you that if you surround yourself with only uplifting people, you will have positive energy and you will only be attracted to more uplifting people in the future.
Public Service Announcement
If you are the person that likes to share every bad thing that happened in your day or you complain about everything to everyone: STOP!
You are reading my blog because you want to improve your life. Perhaps you have already cleaned out your house to welcome in good energy. Now you need to BE that good energy as well.
Oprah once said, “Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.”
I would like to add, “Be that person who will lift others around you.”
Next Steps
Leave a comment to publicly announce how you will surround yourself with positive people and be sure to read about the Helpful People & Relationships corners of your home.
Want to REALLY improve your situation? For more help, contact me right now to inquire about a Feng Shui Space Clearing or a Virtual Feng Shui Consultation.
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Clearing Out the Bed Feng Shui
Someone forwarded me a hilarious Craigslist ad of a woman selling her mattress because she no longer wanted to sleep on the bed that she and her cheating ex-boyfriend used to share.
At first I simply enjoyed the ad because of the humor in the write-up.
Then I realized how, intentional-or-not, the person who posted the ad was practicing Feng Shui.
Feng Shui Space Clearing
By disposing of the old mattress, she was cleaning out bad relationship energy.
The seller was clearing a road for new a relationship to come into her life (hopefully someone more caring and faithful then her ex).
I’m not saying that everyone getting out of a relationship should dispose of their old mattress every time they break up with someone. The sheets, yes. Mattress? Probably not.
Advertise Availability
If you are ready to move on from a relationship, you need to make it known to the energy around you that you have cleared the space for someone new.
If you find yourself in this situation, let me ask you something: Do you still have a shoe box full of items from your previous relationships? Perhaps pictures, ticket stubs, dried out roses, love notes…?
Move On
These things are holding you back emotionally from moving forward to meet that special someone who is right for you. When you hold onto them, they remind you of the past.
Instead, you should be looking forward to a new and better relationship to come.
This goes for everything in our lives, but especially for finding that special someone.
When you are ready to move on and ready to welcome someone special in your life, create some space for them… in your home and in your heart.
Just make sure you have a bed to sleep in after you’ve created the space!
I wish you and the Craigslist seller the best of luck in releasing yourselves from past experiences and moving toward brighter futures.
Next Steps
Leave a comment below with your plan to use Feng Shui to meet someone new.
Also, be sure to get more Feng Shui tips on finding Love and Marriage here.
For more help, contact me right now to inquire about a Feng Shui Space Clearing or a Virtual Feng Shui Consultation.
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Designing Homes the Feng Shui Way
As a Feng Shui consultant to several home builders, I always take an interest in seeing what others say about Feng Shui as it pertains to homes.
The Times of India has an article with some very basic elements talking about how homes should be built, including the following (with my comments):
Main Door: The main door should be larger than any other door in the house and its directional position is important. I would like to add that the house should be designed in such a way that the front door can be used the most regularly as the main entryway. For a healthy Career & Life Path Area of your home, be sure to use your front door!
Kitchen: The article points out that there needs to be a balancing act between the various elements found in a kitchen (metal from utensils, fire from the stove, water from the sink, etc.). Placement is important so that these items work in a creative cycle for energy rather than a destructive cycle. See some of my tips for the kitchen here and here.
Master Bedroom: Though the article largely discusses furniture here, it correctly points out that the location of the master bedroom is very important, though it does not elaborate. While having the master bedroom in the Love & Relationship Corner, I would contend that it is most important that no part of this room extends outside of the home as defined by the front door.
Toilets: The article correctly points out that toilets only relatively recently made their way indoors. It is widely believed in Feng Shui that toilets will suck the Feng Shui energy, or Chi, right out of your home. Getting rid of the toilet just isn’t practical in modern society, but make sure not to have them in dangerous places and use some tricks to slow the drain.
Next Steps
Find out more about the Feng Shui consulting I provide for home builders and home renovation projects.
What Feng Shui problems do you typically see in modern homes? Leave your comments below.
For more help, contact me right now to inquire about a Feng Shui Space Clearing or a Virtual Feng Shui Consultation.
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Feng Shui Relationships: Love and Marriage
I just added information on the section of the Bagua related to Love, Marriage, & Relationships.
If love or marriage is something you are looking to add or improve in your life, give this a read.
For personalized assistance, visit the In-Home Feng Shui Consultations page.
For more help, contact me right now to inquire about a Feng Shui Space Clearing or a Virtual Feng Shui Consultation.
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Find the Love of Your Life with Feng Shui!
Are you ready for a serious relationship?
Do you want to find that ideal husband or wife?
Do you want to share your life with a special someone?
Why not ask for it in the language of Feng Shui?
Define Your Love
First, write down what kind of qualities you would like in your mate.
Then, write that list as a Thank You note. The more detailed, the better.
I am thankful that I have found the love of my life. I am thankful that he/she understands me. I am thankful that he/she loves my family like their own. I am thankful that my family loves him/her. I am thankful that he/she is a successful, healthy, attractive, talented, sensitive, funny… person.
Bedroom Matters
Look in your bedroom.
Does it seem welcoming for a mate?
Does it have two pillows instead of one on the bed?
Does the bed have room for someone to come in from the other side of the bed?
Do your night stands balance each other?
Try having matching night stands and lights on either side of your bed.
Balance in two, one for you and one for the other person.
Make Room for Love
Even if you haven’t found “the one” yet, you need to create room in your home for that special someone to come into your life.
Check your closet as well.
Does it have room for the other person to “move in”?
You have to create space in order for it to get filled up with what you want.
In-Home Advertising
If your bedroom and your house are screaming, “I am single,” then that’s the message you are sending out to the Universe.
If you have a house or bedroom that looks welcoming for someone else, then that’s the energy you will attract.
Next Steps
For more information on finding love, read up on the Love & Marriage corner of your Bagua.
Good luck finding the love of your life!